Behavior Modification- Overcoming Violence
To truly comprehend violence and the angry feelings that lead to it, one has to know the 4 basic causes of anger. But even deeper than that, one has to understand the deepest sense of who we really are, our individual way of being.
There are two ways to be; one is responsive and the other is resistant. A responsive person is open and understanding; whereas, a resistant person is closed, unkind, and uncaring. Resistant, self-deceived criminals commit violent crimes from the deepest sense of who they are.
-All criminals commit violence in their hearts before doing it with their hands.
-Violence is not necessarily a hit, but a way of being.
-Violence is a choice.
-Nonviolence, like violence, goes deeper than behavior. It's a way of being.
-Self-deceived violent people disconnect themselves from the feelings of others.
-Those who are resistant believe, �I violate others by marginalizing their reality and reducing them to an object. In this process I elevate myself.�
-Resistant individuals allow this thought pattern into their lives, �I fight for control without mercy or compassion.�
-When children are violated, future generations are devastated.
-�If others are violent towards me while I'm violating them, it justifies my actions�
-Resistant people bring problems into their lives, not solutions.
-Violent people endeavor to portray themselves in ways that make the wrong they do appear to be right.
-In the resistant way of being, �I impede the flow of life�s light and energy. I repel others and live a life filled with self.�
Violence in society is brought on by the way of being of its citizenry. To intervene in violent behavior, a person has to change from a resistive person to a responsive person. This involves an entire change of being.
A course that does not approach people at their deepest level is doomed to failure. Anger management and behavior modification techniques are just surface remedies that don�t go deep enough to create life-long changes. Cognitive restructuring, if performed correctly, is a proven intervention that allows individuals to become �self aware� and consequently more willing to change their individual way of being. Cognitive restructuring is not force but rather an invitation to change. It gets involved at the deepest level where lasting changes can take place.
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About the Author: Larry Lloyd is the founder of American Community Corrections Institute (ACCI), which sponsors a news blog about criminal behavior and related issues.
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