Cognitive Truths
These are cognitive restructuring truisms used in manualized cognitive lifeskills workbooks to help change faulty thinking and self-destructive behaviors.
If you continue doing the same things that you have been doing; you'll continue getting what you have gotten in the past.
Life is short and fragile. A healthy person lives only around 800 to 900 months or about 600,000 hours. It is not birth or death that's important, but what you do in between birth and death.
Much of what we are today was scripted while we were young. Scripting, whether good or bad, is passed down from one generation to another. Some relations who are now dead still have powerful influence over our personal lives and values.
Victims have a choice about their own children and others. They can choose reduce the wrong that was done to them, they can stay neutral and pass on what offenders did to them or they can be magnify the problem and make everything worse. They have the ability to stand between the past and the future and rewrite their future. They can affect their posterity in a good or bad way. It's all up to them.
If you see someone behaving in a negative or self-destructive way remember that the person hurting pretty badly.
One can discern right from wrong by what it produces. Doing wrong will never bring you true happiness. One can decide to do that which is wrong, but one cannot decide the consequences.
There are 6 basic emotional needs that people must have in their lives. Those who dont get their needs met become emotionally damaged or handicapped. However, they have the ability triumph over their emotional handicaps by forgiving others and moving on with their life. Life can move forward as soon as the past is set free.
Life isn't fair. Sometimes bad things happen to good people.
People generally treat others as they are. If those around you dont trust you, it is because you can't be trusted. If others dont believe you it is because you lie. If others dont respect you, it is because you dont keep your word. If others are afraid of you, it is because you are mean. If you return to prison, it is because you are a criminal.
Anger is a secondary emotion caused by primary emotions caused by one or more of the four basic sources. Those who anger us control us.
In marriage, the thing that matters most are the people. If a couple wishes to improve their marriage, then they have to change themselves.
Proper communication requires seeking to understand and then seeking to be understood.
If you choose to do what is wrong, you empower others and circumstances to have control over your life.
Doing that which is wrong will ensure that life won't get better. Wrongdoers will eventually endure the consequences of their bad choices.
Loads of people with terrible beginnings have terrible endings. Their past will equal their future unless they consciously choose to make a permanent change.
We are what we do and we do what we are. We cannot hide who we are because eventually we'll give ourselves away by our bad choices and actions. Our long-term behavior is a direct indication of our values and who we are. What we do gives us away.
Those who are emotionally damaged are usually pretty hard on themselves. They believe lies others have told them about themselves and believe untruth about themselves. If they dont become self-aware and have a desire to begin changing they'll continue getting the same results.
There are certain basic laws or needs that are so essential that we must have them all to be a whole person. "We cannot break the laws, we can only break ourselves against them." (Cecil B. DeMille) A few of these laws are love, affirmation, sympathy, appreciation and security. If these are absent in our lives, we become damaged.
Life isnt always fair. Bad things happened to good people. It isnt life that causes our problems, but our reactions to it. Mistakes can be forgiven, emotional scars can be healed. Life isnt over until it is over. Each new day brings an opportunity for change.
About the Author: Decades ago, Larry Lloyd founded the American Community Corrections Institute. ACCI sponsors a blog on the topic of anger management and related topics.
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