The Top 10 Dating Mistakes
Dating can be a complicated process, and to be honest, not very many people are good at it. The next time you have a big date planned, try to avoid these dangerous dating mistakes.
1. The Act
Most people are afraid of rejection. It’s human nature, and because of this, many people act as though they are somebody they really aren’t. It’s far better to be yourself. If you are looking for a successful, long-term relationship, it’s better to let someone learn about the real you. By doing so, you can avoid some potentially messy misunderstandings in the future. You won’t be able to keep up the act forever, and once you let your guard down, the other person may find out that you’re not the right one for them.
2. The Ex
Don’t talk about your ex boyfriend or girlfriend a lot. They don’t want to hear it at this point, and they definitely don’t want to feel like they are being compared to your past partners.
3. Settling
Sure, they have great teeth, hair and a grand sense of humor, but you realize that he/she is picky and argumentative. He/She is still a whole lot better than a lot of your past partners though, right? Wrong. When you settle for something less than you were originally looking for, you set yourself up for future failure. There are plenty of single men and women out there, don’t settle for second best.
4. The Illusion
When you’re first attracted to someone, your body is pumped full of a wonderful chemical called oxytocin. Oxytocin can fool you into thinking everything is perfect, and make you want to throw yourself at the other person. However, you need to be rational, and slow the pace down a bit. Give your body time to adjust, and see things from a more logical point of view.
5. Make Wedding Plans
Don’t talk about marrying them. It makes you look dependant, and while this may make you vulnerable, it’s not what a woman or man is looking for in a long term relationship. They may sleep with you, because you seem vulnerable, but it’s unlikely that you’ll receive a second invitation to a date.
6. Sleep With Them On The First Date
If you sleep with someone after the first or second date, the other person is bound to wonder how many other men or women you’ve done this with in the past. If you’re looking for a long-term commitment, that’s not the impression you want to leave.
7. Not Being Confident
If the relationship isn’t meant to happen, it won’t. Being anxious and nervous about what the other person is going to say about you later, is a definite mood killer. However, confidence in yourself can really boost your worth in a potential mates eye. This doesn’t mean you should act like an egotistical jerk. Just be comfortable with yourself, and the rest will take care of itself.
8. Date Atmosphere
The whole point of dating is to get to know someone better. This can’t be done if you go to a movie theatre on your first date. While the movie is running, you’re both absorbed, making meaningful conversation impossible. Plan your first date wisely, instead of wasting your time.
9. Clam Up
Let them in a little. Not talking, or answering questions on a date, can quickly lead to failure. While you shouldn’t talk too much about yourself, it’s okay to let them get to know you a little.
One top mistake many people make is to just answer the question being asked, and usually answer it in a really short manner. I have been on the receiving end of this and it makes it so hard for the person asking the questions! You need to have a bit of give and take, conversation should flow and should go both ways, answer questions, bring in your experiences and other related stories to the answer, and make sure to bounce back the question or conversation to the other person. Do that and the conversation and attraction will flow freely.
10. Don’t Lie
Keep your word. If you are unreliable, you’re showing your date that you’re going to be unreliable in the future. Most people want a reliable, trustworthy and honest partner.
If you can avoid these deadly dating mistakes in the future, you’re ahead of the game. Just be natural, and not fake. Enjoy the dating scene, but be aware that there are a lot of players on the field. It’s only a matter of time, until you meet the right one for you.
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